Iam 24, my bf going to move to Troy NY for his master he ask me to move with him, I want to but Iam afraid we will never get married. How could I help a non-Mormon spouse to feel like a member of my ward family when he is not a member of my church. I know residency is particularly bad, but what about when he finishes that. Here are my thoughts as someone who grew up with a non-mormon father and as someone who married a non-mormon girl. Everything we do when we are together seems to be pre-planned and must be executed just so, right down to unexpectedly turning off the lights at And I can relate to the walking on eggshells feeling when they are home. Your husbands love you, and love that you are able to do what they cannot. I was off travelling the world when I met and fell madly in love with a deployed Marine. I have had to compromise more often than I would have liked. And yes, some people are unbelievably stupid about it. I would never convert.
But now it also comes out that he resents my past negativity and lack of appreciation for his hard work I didn't want to talk about my issues with him because, as many of you have said, my little problems couldn't compete with what he was dealing with at work. As my husband learns about Mormonism I get to see it through his fresh eyes. The point is that he should ASK her if this is true for her. I don't think people really understand how lonely it can get, unless you are married to one. A lot of Mormons think that good people will obviously recognize the truthfulness of the church and quickly join. Then I do my own work I am a recruiter and I work remotely most of the time, which is incredibly convenient for our relationship. While a part of me is sad about not having a temple marriage and getting sealed together I have hope that this could change while we are on this earth and I have faith in an ever-loving Father in Heaven who is kind and just and will be able to provide a way for my family to live together in the eternities. Among Mormons, 25 is practically an old maid. Religion is super important to LDS people but there's also alot of exmormons. The religion rather, and more importantly, the church itself is integral to most mormons' identity.
We should all remember this is a human being, and she has a brain. No one knows your situation the way you do. It made me so very sad. Keep things going and see what happens. Facebook Email Twitter Print. Break it off amicably now, before it gets too difficult. Best wishes on your next expedition. I really hadn't considered a lot of the points people have brought up. Those were difficult both in terms of terminology and in understanding what was going on medically. Love and support them just as you would if your husband was a carpenter.
If things get even more serious, try getting her to sign a pre-nup that neither she, nor her family will try to convert you. With me it's less about taking my time and more about the mental drain. That's another 15 for me.